If you’re going through a breakup right now, you’re probably experiencing all kinds of emotions.
During this time it's natural to want to hold on to the relationship and to try to maintain contact with your ex girlfriend.
You might even have resorted to begging or pleading with your ex about getting back together, telling her that you’ll change your ways if she just takes you back.
We need to say this right now, stop the begging and stop telling her that you’ll change. In fact, the opposite is true. Now is the time to give her the space she wants, so that the both of you can heal.
You’re probably wondering, “how will she miss me if I give her space and I’m not around her anymore?”
Well, in this article we'll explore the importance of giving space, strategies for using this time effectively and tips for getting back in touch at the right time.
We’ll also address the question of whether an ex girlfriend will miss their partner after giving them space, and explore the factors that can influence these feelings.
So, here we go.
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The importance of giving space after a breakup
Why it’s important
Giving space to an ex girlfriend after a breakup is important for many reasons.
It allows both parties to process their emotions and come to terms with the end of the relationship. This is crucial for healing and moving on. It can be difficult to process and make sense of the end of a relationship when the other person is still around, the space can be beneficial for both of you to let these emotions settle, and move forward in a healthy way.
The last thing you want to do when these emotions are still running high is to get into complex discussions about what went wrong in the relationship, or how to fix things. What’s done is done, and now is the time to step away for a while.
Giving space also allows each person to focus on themselves and their own needs. This can lead to personal growth and self-improvement. It's important to take time to reflect on what you want and need in a relationship and what you can do to be a better partner in the future. Additionally, it's a good opportunity to focus on your own well-being, whether that be through exercise, hobbies, or self-care.
Giving space prevents unhealthy behaviors and patterns that may have developed in the relationship. When people stay in close proximity to their ex-partner after a breakup, they may be more likely to engage in behaviors such as stalking, constant texting, or calling, which can be unhealthy, unproductive, and incredibly unattractive.
Finally, giving space allows both of you to evaluate your feelings for each other and the relationship. It can be difficult to determine if the relationship is truly over or if the problems are fixable when both of you are still in close contact each day. By giving space, both parties can reflect on the relationship and determine if they truly want to move on or if they want to try to work things out in the future.
Benefits of giving space
One of the main benefits of giving her space after a breakup is emotional healing.
When a relationship ends, it's natural to experience a range of emotions such as sadness, anger, confusion, and grief. These emotions can be overwhelming and can make it difficult to move on.
Giving space allows both parties to take some time to process their emotions and come to terms with the end of the relationship. It also allows them to focus on self-care and self-healing which can help to reduce feelings of sadness, anger, and depression.
This means that when you do come to talk to her again, you’ll be in a much better position where everything she says or does isn’t a trigger for your emotions to rise.
The same can be said for her. You both want to be calm and emotionally neutral when the time comes to sit down face to face.
The time away is a perfect opportunity for personal growth and turning into a better version of yourself. Becoming the person they want to be with.
Give her space without losing her
The No Contact Rule
This is the time when we like to mention the No Contact Rule. You’ve probably heard about it.
Essentially, the no contact rule involves completely cutting off all communication with your ex for a set period of time, typically 30 days or more.
This includes cutting off contact with phone calls, texts, emails, and social media interactions. The goal of the no contact rule is to give you time and space to heal and move on from the relationship, and to help you avoid the temptation to try to reconnect with your ex whilst emotions are running high.
Check out our full guide to the No Contact Rule, where we cover the meaning, when to use it, and how to use it most effectively.
Getting back in touch
Now, hopefully you’ve gone through our guide to the No Contact Rule and you’ve followed our advice.
After this period of no contact where you’ve been staying away and working on yourself you can think about getting back in touch.
It’s time to start putting out the feelers.
Here are some tips to open up the lines of contact again.
Send occasional text messages or emails: You can use these to check in on your ex-partner and let them know you're thinking of them.
Check up on social media: Hopefully you’ve muted her social media during no contact. But now can be a good time to stay updated on what your ex-partner is doing without being too intrusive. Avoid commenting on their posts or sending direct messages unless you've agreed to do so.
Plan a phone call or video call: Scheduling a phone call or video call can be a good way to catch up with your ex-partner and have a more personal conversation. Make sure to agree on a time and date in advance.
Plan a meeting with a specific purpose: You can plan a meeting with your ex-partner to discuss a specific topic or to return personal items. Make sure that the meeting has a specific purpose and that it's not just an excuse to see them.
Be respectful of their feelings: Remember that your ex-partner may still be dealing with their emotions and needs during this time. Be respectful of their feelings and avoid pushing them into anything they're not comfortable with.
Avoid being too pushy or demanding: It's important to keep in mind that you've agreed to give space to each other, so avoid being too pushy or demanding of their time or attention.
There’s a strategy to this and a way to do it right, which we share in The Breakup Blueprint. This is our step-by-step guide to getting over a breakup, healing, working on yourself and getting your ex back. Check it out for full details about how to use the strategies above in the right way.
Set clear boundaries
Setting clear boundaries is important in any relationship, but it's especially important when giving space after a breakup. Clear boundaries can help to prevent confusion, misunderstandings, and unhealthy behaviors.
Communicate your needs: It's important to be honest and open about your needs for space and what you expect from your ex-partner during this time. This can help to set clear boundaries and prevent any confusion or misunderstandings.
Establish limits: Set limits on the frequency and nature of communication, and make sure that both parties are comfortable with these limits. For example, you might agree to only text once a day, or not to call after a certain time of night.
Respect each other's boundaries: It's important to respect each other's boundaries and not cross any lines that make your ex-partner uncomfortable. This could include things like not showing up unannounced, not calling or texting excessively, or not trying to contact them when they've asked for space.
Be consistent: Be consistent with your boundaries, and make sure that you're not sending mixed signals. This can help to prevent confusion and misunderstandings.
Be flexible: Be open to adjusting your boundaries as needed, but make sure that any changes are communicated clearly and agreed upon by both parties.
Will she miss me if I give her space?
How do I give her space without losing her?
So, now we’ve gone through the benefits of giving her space and the right ways to implement these strategies. You might be wondering if all this will end up making her miss you.
Whether she misses you after giving her space depends on a few factors, including the nature of the relationship, the reasons for the breakup, the emotional state of both of you, and the level of mutual feelings and attachment.
The nature of the relationship: If the relationship was long-term and intense, it's more likely that the ex-partner will miss their ex. On the other hand, if the relationship was short-lived or not very intense, the ex-partner may not miss their ex as much.
The reasons for the breakup: If the breakup was mutual and amicable, the ex-partner may not miss their ex as much. However, if the breakup was caused by infidelity, betrayal, or other serious issues, the ex-partner may miss their ex more.
The emotional state of both parties: If both parties are emotionally stable and ready to move on, the ex-partner may not miss their ex as much. However, if one or both parties are still emotionally invested in the relationship, the ex-partner may miss their ex more.
The level of mutual feelings and attachment: If both parties were deeply in love and had a strong emotional attachment, the ex-partner may miss their ex more. On the other hand, if the mutual feelings and attachment were not as strong, the ex-partner may not miss their ex as much.
It's important to keep in mind that everyone's experience is different and that everyone handles breakups differently. Don’t put too much pressure on the situation and focus on your own emotional healing and growth.
Does she miss me?
During the period after a breakup you might be wondering if she misses you.
When it comes to judging whether she misses you or not, there are some key signs which may help you identify her true feelings.
We’ve gone into depth on these signs that an ex girlfriend misses you, so take a look for yourself and see if you recognize them.
Spotting a few of these signs may show that your ex is thinking about you and missing you.
When she might not miss you
Here are a few examples of situations where an ex girlfriend may or may not miss their ex:
A couple who has been in a long-term, serious relationship may miss each other more after a breakup. They have likely formed a deep emotional attachment and have shared many experiences together. In this case, the ex-partner may miss their ex more, especially if the breakup was not mutual or was caused by something that can be fixed.
A couple who has been in a short-term, casual relationship may not miss each other as much after a breakup. They may have had fun together, but they likely did not form a deep emotional attachment. In this case, the ex-partner may not miss their ex as much, especially if the breakup was mutual or caused by something that can't be fixed.
A couple who broke up because of infidelity or betrayal may not miss each other as much after a breakup. The hurt caused by these actions may make it difficult for the ex-partner to miss their ex, as the trust has been broken.
A couple who broke up because of a lack of communication or a temporary setback may miss each other more after a breakup. The ex-partner may feel that the problems could have been fixed if there was better communication or if the setback was addressed.
A couple who broke up because of distance or other circumstances that can't be changed may not miss each other as much after a breakup. The ex-partner may understand that the relationship couldn't have been maintained due to these circumstances and they may not miss their ex as much.
It's important to remember that everyone's experience is different and that everyone handles breakups differently. These examples are just a general overview, and it's hard to know for sure whether your ex-partner will miss you. But you can follow the advice above to give yourself the best chance of winning her back.
Getting your ex girlfriend back
As you can see, giving space after a breakup is important for emotional healing, personal growth, breaking away from unhealthy patterns and behavior, and evaluating feelings for each other and the relationship.
It's difficult to predict whether she’ll miss you if you give them space, as it depends on a variety of factors. But using the tools above you put yourself in the best possible to win her back.
If you enjoyed this guide then check out our article on the things not to do after a breakup.
