Breakups are difficult for everyone involved. Not only the person being broken up with, but also the person doing the breaking up.
If your girlfriend has broken up with you and decided she needs time and space, the important thing is not to suffocate her with neediness and attention seeking.
It may seem counterintuitive, but begging for her back is only going to push her further away. She’s made this decision, now you need to respect it.
The best thing to do now is simply walk away and give her what she’s asking for. This is what we call entering a period of no contact.
We go into detail about the No Contact Rule here, where you can learn what it is and how to implement it successfully.
In this article, we’ll discuss the effects of no contact on a woman, including the emotional, physical, and cognitive effects. We’ll also explore the potential benefits of no contact for men who are looking to get their ex back.
By understanding the effects of no contact, men can make an informed decision about whether or not it's the right choice for them.
The emotional effects of no contact
What no contact does to a woman emotionally
Implemented correctly, no contact after a breakup can be a difficult and confusing time for a woman.
The emotional effects of no contact can vary depending on your ex girlfriend and her personality, but some common emotions usually experienced are:
Confusion: Your ex may be confused about the reasons for the breakup and what led to the end of the relationship. She may also be confused about your feelings and intentions, especially if communication has been cut off.
Sadness: An ex may feel a deep sense of sadness and grief over the loss of the relationship. She may also feel a sense of loss for the future that she had imagined with you.
Anger: She may also feel angry and resentful towards you for the way the relationship ended. She may also feel angry at herself for not seeing the signs of the relationship ending or for not handling the breakup differently.
Longing and missing: Without any contact, an ex girlfriend may find herself thinking about you constantly, missing them and longing for their presence. This can be especially difficult if the relationship was long-term and you shared a lot of memories together.
Insecurity: With the breakup, a woman may feel insecure about her own worth and may question whether she was enough for you. She may also feel insecure about her ability to be in another relationship in the future.
It's important to note that everyone's experience is unique and some women may not experience all these emotions.
Feelings of longing and missing the other person
Feeling a sense of longing and missing the other person is a common emotion after a breakup, especially during no contact. This can be a difficult emotion to deal with because it can be triggered by various things such as: memories, familiar places, old habits, and even by random events that remind them of you.
Longing for an ex can manifest in different ways, such as:
Constantly thinking about you: They might find themselves constantly thinking about you, replaying memories, and imagining what you’re doing.
Feeling a physical ache: They might feel a physical ache in your chest or stomach when they think about you, or when they see something that reminds them of you.
Having trouble sleeping or eating: They might have trouble sleeping or eating because they’re preoccupied with thoughts of you.
Wanting to reach out: An ex might find themselves wanting to reach out to you, even though they know it's not a good idea.
Having trouble focusing on other things: They might find it hard to focus on work, school, or other activities because their mind is preoccupied with thoughts of you.
Physical effects of no contact
What no contact does to a woman physically
The physical effects of no contact can vary depending on the individual, but some common physical symptoms that may be experienced include:
Changes in appetite: A woman may experience changes in her appetite, such as loss of appetite or overeating. This can be caused by stress and emotional turmoil, which can affect the body's ability to regulate hunger and fullness.
Sleep disturbances: A woman may have trouble sleeping or may experience insomnia. This can be caused by stress, anxiety, or difficulty shutting off thoughts about the other person.
Fatigue: A woman may feel physically and mentally exhausted due to the emotional stress of the breakup and the lack of contact with the other person.
Headaches or muscle tension: A woman may experience headaches or muscle tension as a result of stress and tension in the body.
Stomach aches: A woman may experience stomach aches or other digestive issues caused by stress, which can affect the body's ability to properly digest food.
Changes in physical activity: A woman may lose interest in physical activities, or conversely, may use physical activity as a way to cope with stress.
It's important to note that these physical effects are not limited to no contact situations and can also occur in any stressful situation. It also depends highly on the reasons for the breakup. If the breakup ended because of infidelity or something serious then she may feel better about the breakup. However every breakup is hard, no matter the reasons, and going through no contact will almost always give her opportunities to miss you.
Physical symptoms of no contact
Physical symptoms related to stress can occur as a result of the body's "fight or flight" response, which is triggered by a perceived threat or stressor. This response can cause a variety of physical symptoms such as:
Increased heart rate: Stress can cause an increase in heart rate, which can lead to feelings of anxiety, lightheadedness, and palpitations.
Elevated blood pressure: Stress can cause a temporary increase in blood pressure, which can put a strain on the circulatory system and increase the risk of heart disease.
Muscle tension: Stress can cause muscle tension, which can lead to headaches, back pain, and muscle aches.
Changes in appetite: Stress can cause changes in appetite, such as loss of appetite or overeating.
Sleep disturbances: Stress can cause insomnia or difficulty falling asleep, which can lead to fatigue, irritability, and difficulty concentrating.
Cognitive effects of no contact
What no contact does to a woman cognitively
No contact can also have a significant impact on a woman's cognitive functioning. It can lead to feelings of abandonment, rejection, and low self-worth. These negative emotions can affect a woman's thought processes, making it difficult for her to focus on other aspects of her life, such as work or personal relationships.
Additionally, no contact can also lead to feelings of intense longing and yearning for the other person, which can be distracting and disruptive to cognitive functioning.
Furthermore, no contact can also lead to rumination, which is the repetitive and excessive focus on negative thoughts and emotions. This can be detrimental to one's emotional well-being, as it can lead to feelings of being stuck, and can prevent an individual from moving forward with their life.
It's important to note that everyone processes breakups differently, and that the effects of no contact can vary widely from person to person. Obviously you don’t want your ex girlfriend to feel all of these symptoms. But it’s important to be clear that cutting off contact after a breakup affects both parties. You may be sitting at home thinking she’s getting away from you, but implementing no contact strategically can actually put you in her mind and thoughts more than if you were out there chasing her.
No contact is a powerful tool if used correctly, but there’s a way to do it optimally. It needs to be partnered with a strategy for improving yourself and building yourself into the best version of yourself. You need to use this time carefully, don’t just sit around waiting for your ex to come back. It’s time to build up attraction again and make them feel like they’re missing out if they lose you.
We’ve designed The Breakup Blueprint as a step-by-step guide to getting over a breakup and winning your ex girlfriend back. We give you the tools to calm down, let go, build yourself up and get your ex back. We also tell you the exact amounts of time you should be implementing no contact depending on your situation.
Benefits of no contact to get an ex girlfriend back
Going no contact with your ex after a breakup can be a difficult decision, but it can also have potential benefits if you are looking to get your ex back. Some of these potential benefits include:
Giving your ex space: Going no contact can give your ex the space they need to process the breakup and reflect on their feelings. This can help to prevent the relationship from becoming toxic or emotionally charged.
Improving your own emotional state: Going no contact can give you the space and time you need to focus on yourself, process your own emotions, and work on personal growth. This can help you become a more attractive partner and improve your chances of getting your ex back.
Showing maturity: Going no contact can demonstrate to your ex that you are capable of handling the breakup in a mature and respectful way. This can help to rebuild trust and respect in the relationship.
Re-attracting your ex: Going no contact can give you the opportunity to work on yourself and become the best version of yourself. This can help to re-attract your ex by showing them that you are happy, confident, and fulfilled without them.
Giving your ex time to miss you: Going no contact can give your ex the opportunity to miss you and realize the value of the relationship. This can help to increase their attraction and desire to get back together.
Getting an ex girlfriend back
So there you have it, what no contact does to a woman and why it’s the best strategy for getting her back. If you’ve been using the No Contact Rule for a while, or even if you’re just wondering how your ex is feeling, check out these signs to watch out for to see if your ex misses you.
You’ll also want to check out our guide to behaving correctly after a breakup to give yourself the best chance of getting her back. Here are all the things not to do after a breakup.
If you’re still looking for guidance then find out the answers to whether she’ll miss you after going no contact.